Saturday, December 31, 2016

Happy New Year!

It is the eve.  Tomorrow is the day to begin writing 2017.  Translation – tomorrow is the day I should remember to start writing 2017 ...as well as the day I should take down the Christmas tree.  I would not bet the ranch on my success in doing either.  Needless to say I will be bringing the New Year in with all the traditions that I have established over the years – no resolutions and sleeping throughout the ball drop.  Oh – last year -- at some point near the end of 2015 -- I wrote down three dreams to work on in 2016… (Some of you may remember that I did this in lieu of the whole resolution "thing".  I encouraged you to do the same.  Did You?)  Anyway -- my dreams were:

                   Finish Views from the Porch (the book I am working on)
                   Submit it for publication
                   Work on the Pencilbox (this blog) …keep the focus…


So – the book is not finished, but about 30 chapters are at a publishing company in NYC waiting patiently to be read. They have been waiting now for 7 months.  I figure I should hear something by February - maybe. The blog is enjoying a hiatus of late… but I did finish a full 100 blogs over the past two years…so that is something.  

Think I will make a dream list this year as well.  Will give it some thought.  Becoming more mindful comes to mind immediately.  I, for example, have been trying to remember to listen to the sounds of morning when I wake up.  So far the only noticeable thing is the house reacting in various ways to the winds and cold of Northwest Pennsylvania snow country.  Then I try not to focus on my bones doing that same thing. 

The most important thing I have to say today though is that I wish you all a wonderful 2017... may you realize at least some of your dreams.  

Thursday, October 20, 2016

100th From Pencilbox to Keyboard

Funny how looking back on time makes it seem like it has passed so quickly.  In the Fall of 2014 I took a course at the local Higher Ed because I wanted to know what a blog was.  My first blog was posted on October 30th of that year with the help of my most patient and knowledgeable instructor, Chelsea Oliver. Now in what seems like no time at all -- today is the 100th blog that I have written and posted on Google Blog Spot, and From Pencilbox to Keyboard has been viewed over 12,000 times. Blogging has been an amazing and positive experience... thanks to all of you who read it, and sometimes take time to react, comment and even to share.  

Developing a reader base has been a slow process but -- today I have readers all over the world -- popularity varies from day to day - country to country depending on some unknown and unidentifiable reason. Sometimes I have a bunch of readers in Romania or France and then at other times, it is in Mexico, China and Poland. Go figure. Interestingly -- although I have a lot of readers in almost thirty other countries in which English is not the native language, I have very few readers in the UK or Canada.  How do I know this? Google Blogger tracks it all -- not specifics on individual readers, just the country that is linking in. I have had individuals from faraway places comment on Blogger itself and have been able to have "conversations" with them. I had one message from a CEO of some logistics company in Sweden who enjoyed my writing about my grandchildren. It is reassuring to see that there are certain values that are shared by people all over the world. (We should concentrate more on these shared values and less on the differences, methinks.) Anyway - it has been a wonderful learning experience all the way around.  What I love the most, have to say, are the comments and "likes" on Facebook -- these are from people I know and especially care about. Thank you all for reading, commenting and sharing.  I appreciate you.  You have expanded my world. 

My intent from the beginning of this blog was to reach out to those I refer to as "Maturing" Baby Boomers. I, of course, include myself in this most special group.  There are a great many of us out there, yet we do not always remember that we are not alone in the particular challenges of our times.  I personally like to be quietly reminded once in a while that I am not alone -- that I am not standing on a cliff screaming into the wind. Plus -- it is reassuring to know that others also sometimes feel sort of "out of it".  The thing is -- ironically -- it doesn't really bother me to be "out of touch" in some ways.  I, for instance, wouldn't know Beyonce, Rihanna, or Britney Spears if I ran into them on the street, and... I don't care in the least. So -- that being said -- I know that, even if at times a bit out of touch with each other and with the outside world, we are a good bunch -- we have given a lot to the world and still have a great deal to offer.  Yet -- we need each other sometimes to reaffirm our worth, to commiserate about our difficulties and to join together in laughter... that last may be the most important of all. Laughter is a supportive and positive bonding for sure. 

Anyway -- at the end of this 100th post, I thank you all, most sincerely for reading, commenting and sharing.  I appreciate you. You "get it". Thanks for being there. I am proud to be one of you.  Go Boomers! "May the Force be with you."

Thursday, October 13, 2016

As Summer comes to an end...

As Summer comes to an end and some of us begin to settle in for a long winter, I share with you the titles of some of my favorites books of late. I rarely recommend books, but for what it is worth...

The Storied Life of A.J. Fikry    Gabrielle Zevin

The Mr. Mercedes trilogy    Stephen King
  1. Mr. Mercedes
  2. Finders Keepers
  3. End of Watch
The Ice Limit and Beyond The Ice Limit   Douglas Preston & Lincoln Child

The Girl on the Train   Paula Hawkins

Sarah's Keys    Tatiana de Rosnay

Hope you will consider sharing some of your favorite titles as well.  We all need to add to our list of "Must Read".  What is it that "they" say?  "So many good books; so little time."


Thursday, October 6, 2016

A Wise Man Once Wrote


Many years ago when a dear friend of mine died most unexpectedly, someone forwarded to me a letter that he had written to one of his aunts and uncles following the death of their son.  The words of this letter have remained with me as some things do from time to time, and today I want to share his idea with you.  I know that people of a certain age have the loss of loved ones in common, and it is my hope that his words will be a help to you at some point as they continue to comfort me. 

In this letter -- my friend wrote that he always found it to be important to take some of what is the best of the person you have lost and to make those qualities a part of who you are or of who you wish to become. In that way -- each one of us lives on in another. It is a bond of love and respect. There is no higher tribute.

My family lost a most special person earlier this week.  I hope to be able to take even a little bit of her courage and strength and to make it a part of who I am. This is my tribute to her... my remarkable cousin... Kathy Buesink.  

Thursday, September 29, 2016

I do so love a happy crowd....

Those of you who have been reading "From Pencilbox to Keyboard" for a while know that I am the kind of person who cries at parades...the kind of person who loves all things small-town America. This past weekend was the ultimate of that type of experience, and I have to say that I enjoyed every minute of it.  

My daughter was a vendor at the North East, PA Wine Fest and it was a happening. I was her helper.  Not only was her booth of LuLaRoe clothing a hot spot of activity, but...it provided me the opportunity to people watch Friday evening, all day Saturday and then again on Sunday afternoon.  The weather, although a little chilly, was sunny and dry. Perfect... People were not only celebrating the local and regional wines, but also the beginning of Autumn and the break from this past summer's heat.  Fun... fun... fun....

There were all kinds of unique and wonderful items for sale in North East's Gibson Park. I personally bought an outside metal bird that is taller than I am.  (It makes me smile.) There were pony rides, people walking around on stilts, young people boisterously stomping grapes, wine bars, horse drawn wagon rides, a continuous flow of live bands, and food... food... food. There were babies in buggies, seniors with walkers, little children skipping about -- the entire range of humanity (plus a large variety of dogs) -- and -- almost everyone had a smile on his or her face. My personal favorites were those who walked around with necklaces of pretzels to nibble as they walked through the park -- many with glasses of wine in hand or hanging in wine glass holder necklaces so that they could sip as they moved through the festival.  Amazing. Why have I never driven over the hills to North East to attend this before?  

The weekend was encouraging and comforting in these crazy times. It was a welcome return to the positive of the small town experience. I had heard that this Wine Fest draws a crowd of as many as 30,000 people, and I do believe that is so.  I personally met people who came from New Hampshire, Georgia, Florida and Wisconsin -- not to mention from a ton of places closer by in Pennsylvania, New York and Ohio.  They all had one thing in common -- they were having a wonderful time.  Nice, isn't it?  It's a most pleasant diversion from the current events of the national and international level. I do so love a happy crowd... especially if it is celebrating "things" of small-town America. 

Thursday, September 22, 2016

Like Herding Cats

Musing of the day...

As I continue to work my way through this lifetime, I make a serious attempt to be mindful of my surroundings -- of people with whom I interact or meet in passing -- of the sounds, smells and movements of the world around me. The thing is -- it's easy to forget to remember to be mindful.  Today I am thinking about why that is. Here's what I am thinking -- there is sort of an internal dialog that goes on inside my head all day and that narrative sometimes distracts me from being aware...of being mindful.  Does this make sense?  I guess I am thinking about what I need to do, what I want to do, what I have to do.  It's a prioritizing...a multi-level organizing, and let us not forget the time spent in wondering what it is that you were going to do or where the car keys went. You know -- the experience of passing through a doorway and standing in the room wondering what it is that you came to get or to do?  The only comparison I can think of is that this "thinking" sometimes blocks awareness of the outside world much in the way that children playing and asking questions can make things so chaotic that you can't even string enough words together to make a complete sentence.  Sometimes life is so scattered that it is hard to focus on it...to be as mindful, aware, in tune... as you would like to be. Then again -- sometimes it isn't fun to focus and escaping into a world of meandering thoughts is pleasant.  I guess balance is the goal.  Then again again -- maybe even thinking about this escape is a type of "mindful" introspection.  What do you think? I think the whole concept is a bit confusing. Trying to sort it out is like herding cats.

Thursday, September 15, 2016

A Knack with Words


Call what you want.  Some people just have a talent, flair, aptitude, genius --with words.  I admire that.  Sometimes I think my admiration borders on envy, but in a harmless - sort of complimentary way.  It's all in the word choice and phrasing. Sometimes if you read carefully and/or listen well enough at the right time, you will discover a choice of words that captures it all. It is a rare "thing".

A friend of mine once said that he thought that James Michener, winner of a Pulitzer Prize for Fiction, sold his epic novels by the pound. As I was struggling through one his longer works at that time (I think it was either Hawaii or Centennial), I could not help but agree. Then just the other day I read that that a particular book was an "endurance contest".  I so get that. Perfect. (Why is it that many of us are still at that point where we feel the need to finish an entire book even if it drags on and on? Actually -- now that I think about that -- I am sort of slowly moving beyond that particular torture.  I think the guilt for leaving a book unfinished lessens as I become more aware of my aging self.  So little time, so many "good" books to read.)

Two more examples and I will call it a day.  I can't remember where I heard this -- on TV or perhaps in a movie?  Maybe someone out there will remember and help me out.  Anyway -- someone was talking about some horrible event and called the mastermind behind it a "sick twist".   I think of that every time I find myself watching an episode of Criminal Minds.  That series is full of "sick twists".

Finally -- and I still am not sure that I get this one.  A character in a book I am currently reading refers to another as an "arrogant bellybutton".  That one makes me laugh out loud. It's all in the phrasing.  

Thursday, September 8, 2016

Without mentioning any names... This blog was first posted two weeks before the Presidential Election in September of 2016. Perhaps the proverb is true "...the more tings change, the more they stay the same".

I have recently been enjoying a self-imposed news blackout -- again. It works well for me.  My day-to-day life seems nicer somehow. I can always check in once in a while to get caught up if I want to, but I don't have to let the heavy stuff drop in clumps on/around me before I have a chance to self-protect... or even have a morning cup of coffee.

Without mentioning any names... here are some of the ideas and questions that I have been thinking about while enjoying a break from the dark side of the news -- and that includes the political front:
  • How interdependent are we on the rest of the world?
  • How can we focus more on similarities among people rather than on differences?
  • What values do we have in common with all of humanity?
Look -- we all know that the old order is changing -- again.  No matter how scary things may seem, I think it is important to remember that this is not the first time.  It happens.  Here's hoping that the new ways of living in the world will take the best of what still works and will use those things with success to fight the new dangers of the times. 

Again --without mentioning any names...
  • Who offers a sense of a breakthrough into a new way of living?
  • Who offers a sense of strength in a complex world? 
  • Who is not afraid to say "No", this is it.  We are done giving it all away. What is "it"?  It is, in no special order, -- American jobs, American dignity, American strength, American pride -- American hopes and dreams.
  • Who knows the people who can get the jobs done that need to be done?
  • Who dares to say what needs to be said?
Is there such a person out there? If we can find that person or one who even comes close to that, I may see you at the polls. Just sayin'.  In the meantime, I don't need the "news" to try to tell me what to think.  What happened to the "news" anyway?  Did objective reporting ever exist or is that also a pipe dream?  

Thursday, September 1, 2016

Subtlety -- no explanation needed.

Recently a very good friend of mine was describing an unfortunate exchange that she had experienced in a nail salon.  I won't tell you exactly how she described her annoyed self, just that she recounted at the end of the tale -- that she was quite certain that the salon in question now had her photo behind the counter. When we were in touch later on in the day and she was talking about an upcoming appointment with a dentist, I felt it necessary to offer the caution that I know for a fact that some doctors use red flags on patient folders, and although these particular doctors are veterinarians, she needs to be extremely careful.  Of course... I am sure that she was exaggerating the nail salon situation for my amusement, but...  the subtlety of her comment is so perfect, and it got me to thinking about how much I love it when people imply in this way. 

The funny thing about this conversation is that I had just encountered the same type of humor in a book I was reading by Stephen King. (I love the work of Stephen King).  Anyway -- He was describing a character in this story, and at the end of a scene in which this character is talking to his partner, King wrote, "His eyes flick up and to the left".   Later on (before I could even finish my bowl of cereal) King described a situation as being "like the mafia...every time I think I'm out, it pulls me back in".  (That is actually exactly how I feel about laundry, by the way.)  Perfect.

Now that I think of it, the subtle reference or implication is one of my favorite things -- either for effect or more importantly -- for humor. My favorite comedians just drop a comment on you and hope you get it and ... I must mention ... sometimes I have a rather delayed reaction before I do -- if I don't miss the point entirely.  Real life, literature, comedians -- when subtlety is employed, and I do "get it", it makes me feel like I now belong to the special club. Actually this may be the closest I ever get to feeling like I belong at the cool kids' lunch table.  

You know what I mean. Subtlety, implication -- whatever you prefer to call it -- is especially nice when you come upon it unexpectedly and no one explains it to you.  You just "get it".  If you run across an incident like this, please share it with me. No explanation necessary.   Thanks!

Thursday, August 25, 2016

Just had a birthday...

I think that I am officially a senior citizen now.  Actually I think I probably have been there for a while and it is just dawning on me that I am now considered to be an elder. I have always adjusted to change slowly and with more than a little foot dragging. But -- here I am.  I just didn't know I would get here so quickly. I find myself wondering if people realize that elders really aren't as wise as younger people sometimes assume them to be? It is somewhat of a hoax actually, but one not perpetrated intentionally.  I think younger people just like thinking that someone will know what to do.  True -- sometimes experience is a help -- but other times -- not so much.

Related to this older person phenomena... I remember my Mom talking to me about feeling much younger inside than she actually was.  It was often surprising to her to that she was chronologically a certain age when she felt so much younger.  I get that now. About the only time I feel my age is when I get up in the morning or have sat in a chair too long. (I am thinking that some of you may get that.) Anyway -- I was talking to a peer at a luncheon just this past week, and when I mentioned that idea to her -- she totally got it.  Yep -- there is a certain bond between people of a certain age.  I call it a survivor bond. We have been there, done that...and lived to remember it. 

So -- it's a perfect time, once again, to focus on the positive. Therefore -- today I am going to attempt to list just some of the advantages of my age as a way to celebrate my ... maturity.

  • I basically can do whatever I want to do, as I have taught myself to say "No", but ... thank you for asking".
  • I can purchase new clothing based on the comfort level and the softness of the fabric. 
  • I can wear whatever I want on my feet.
  • I can slug around all day in my favorite old ratty clothes whenever I feel like it, and... even sleep in them at times if that seems more convenient.
  • I don't have to lift heavy stuff - ever.
  • I don't have to run except in an emergency.
  • I can ignore the phone or do the "guilt free hang up" on nuisance callers.
  • I can honestly say -- "Sorry, I must not have heard you when you asked me to do that" ... or "I should have written that down -- can't believe it slipped my mind".

I know that the list could be a lot longer.  I am counting on you to add to it in the comments that you are so kind to share with me.  There are so many good things about this stage of the game. I just can't think of them all at this moment.  If you can think of even one advantage to add, that would be perfect. It will do all us (of a certain age) a lot of good. Thank you.... 

Thursday, August 18, 2016

Show of Hands

I need a show of hands.  Sometimes it feels a bit lonely out there even in the realm of the "does not seem important, but maybe it is" category.  At the moment I am talking about mathematics.  Please keep in mind that I am not good at math -- even have to look up how to spell words like Trigonometry, Advanced Algebra and Calculus, for heaven's sake.  I don't even deal with the number nine -- ever, and since I was born in a year with two nines, I am never quite sure how old I am. A long time ago, I was 44 for two years in a row.  Seriously.  Having said all of that so that you know where I stand...

Just this past week, I heard of a fine young man who is beginning his search for an institution of higher learning. He was dismayed to find that one college he visited, although appealing in other areas, has the requirement of calculus for his intended major.  Now -- anyone who has ever dealt with an institution of higher learning -- knows about their rules and prerequisites.  It is an issue -- one that people have complained about -- probably for generations. It is like hitting a wall or screaming into the wind.  Anyway -- it makes me wonder about calculus.  I mean, seriously, what is it?  I know that people say that the study of calculus develops discipline and that no learning is wasted... I know that there are claims that it is used in predicting things like weather, stock options,  and in engineering, but honestly -- I have never met a person who can tell me what good it is to the common person -- like me -- who passed Trig by plugging in formulas in a trial and error method that I personally developed as a method of survival.  

Okay I admit it -- I am a language person.  I write in letters, not in numbers. Here is what I know -- there seem to be very few who know why calculus is useful and they don't share well with others - especially now that computers do a lot of that complex, formulaic sort of thing. I looked up the word calculus-- because that is who I am. The actual word is from the Latin word of the same spelling and literally means "small pebble used for counting".  Really?  It's not so terrifying when you know that. As the definition continues, it explains that calculus is a mathematical study of change -- a way to predict.  Is this why our meteorologists are so accurate in forecasting our weather?  Here all this time I thought they used slide rules or something. (Do slide rules even exist anymore?) 

I am not "gifted" with a math mind.  I struggled through and passed the mandatory college level math class for my major. At the end of the ordeal the professor of said class told me never to do anything in my life that had anything whatsoever to do with numbers...that I had no aptitude nor ability in mathematics.  You see -- college professors didn't have to be nice to their students back in the day. They were not overwhelmingly concerned with self-esteem, etc. He called me Nancy sub 1 -- a name I never understood -- math humor I guess.  I still remember his name.  Anyway -- I took his advice. In spite of that -- I find that I do possess some degree of ability in analytical thinking. I ace logic problems, and logic in combination with women's intuition, has brought me along nicely.  Also -- I can do my checkbook, calculate how much yarn or fabric I need for a project and can even figure out how much it will cost to carpet a room once I have measured it. (I use pencil and paper and then check my figures with the calculator on my phone.)  I follow recipes well if they are not in the metric system. I deal well with percentages, and ... as I remind my grandchildren -- I have eyes in the back of my head.

So -- show of hands please... How many of you use calculus in your everyday lives?  As for the fine young man who will probably have to take calculus -- good luck with that.  Sorry... can't help you there. Wish I could. I passed college Algebra by 1/10th of a point. I knew better than to try calculus. I didn't study chemistry either - not even in high school.  I try to communicate in words, not formulas and numbers with little signs (+ / -) and [brackets]. Words are handy...not always easy, but certainly more functional in everyday life than advanced mathematics...in my humble opinion. Yet -- I recognize it that takes all sorts of talents to make the world go around. I love The Big Bang Theory. We need to be kind to one another and those who can add and stuff need not make fun of those of us who are mathematically challenged. They also need to recognize that reading and writing are also important skills. Maybe they could study language a little harder, so that they could explain themselves a little more effectively. They could start with the value of learning calculus -- for the ordinary person like me.

Thursday, August 11, 2016

Awash in color and plastic bags...

It's a temporary situation, but for now -- my home is awash in color and plastic bags.  You see -- my daughter is now a consultant for the relatively new clothing company called LuLaRoe, and my house is the receiving and shipping center at the moment. What fun! I want it to stay here.  I get to help unpack all the soft, wonderful goodies, watch them being sold, and then help package them for shipping. Anyone who know me knows that I love to package things -- I could have had a career as a gift wrapper -- and loved every single minute. Anyway --

It is an amazing experience.  Not only do I get first pick of all the wonderful softness and comfort of LuLaRoe clothing as one of my perks, but... I am learning about a whole new world.  There are online sales through Facebook and Periscope as well as Pop-Up Boutiques and vendor shows.  The learning curve is sometimes a challenge, but since my daughter has a handle on all of it, I just watch her run with it all. I hang on somehow and have fun tagging along when I want to.  Perfect....

What I really love is how the experience pulls in the entire family.  My grand-kids are willingly and totally involved.  My five-year old granddaughter, an excellent LuLaRoe model and budding star of Periscope, is the stylist -- accessorizing garments that are being photographed for online albums. My nine-year old grandson mans the camera at photo shoots of merchandise and then creates collages for marketing.  My son-in-law is even doing one online show a month -- as are several other of the husbands of consultants across the USA. These sessions are dubbed LuLaBro.  He will be manning the site and answering questions tomorrow evening,  August 12th at 8 PM. Here is the link for those of you who are members of the Friday Nights with the LuLaBros group. (If you are not a member, just click on the blue box to join. Someone will approve you in no time at all.)

https://www.facebook.com/groups/FridayNightwiththeLuLaBros/  

The whole endeavor is an amazing process and makes me smile.  

Busy and exciting times... and it's so much fun to be learning something new. Never a dull moment in the LuLaRoe world. It's a lot more than just enjoying the buttery softness of fabric and of clothing designed for comfort... although... those things are beyond nice.    

See for yourself at LuLaRoe Bree Burlingame on Facebook.   

Thursday, August 4, 2016

Mouse in the House

Nothing does a better job of startling me than a snake in the grass -- unless, of course, it is a mouse in the house.  I so dislike them and... their crunchy little droppings. Now -- I know that a mouse is a very small critter, hardly a worthy adversary,  but... a mouse has a way of darting about that catches a person off guard -- sort of heart stopping.   I have found, from personal experience, that a swooping bat has the same effect. Anyway -- I encountered a mouse in the early Spring while rummaging through my pantry. (I saw the tail first). That mouse no longer lives with me --- or anywhere for that matter, and... my sister recently found herself eye to eye with one as it was dashing about on her kitchen counter while she was making coffee in the wee hours of the morning. What a way to start the day! Eek! (Why is it that I find it funny to picture her dealing with her mouse and not funny at all when I think of my recent encounter with one? I don't know. It is something to ponder.)

 -- Back to the mouse.  When my sister met hers, she (my sister) beat a hasty retreat to the upper region of her home.  Now here is the thing -- I know, from personal experience that a mouse can climb stairs.  She probably knows that too, but when startled, a person may not think of that. Such an experience tends to dull logic (as well as impede breathing).  

It's all over now. She survived beautifully.  Her mouse is gone in a most similar manner to mine, and her kitchen has been scrubbed from top to bottom.  If I know her (and I do), she probably even cleaned the inside of the drains in the kitchen sink -- just in case. I have done that. I admit it freely.

The best part of the story though is the reaction of my funny, cool, calm and collected brother-in-law who, upon hearing of the invasion, quietly asked, "Does this mean that we have to move now?"  Perfect.  

Thursday, July 28, 2016

"Rainy days and Mondays always ...."

Does the title of this week's blog have you singing that Carpenters' song of yore? Well, I don't know about Mondays, but rainy days, although sometimes welcome for the relief they offer from outside obligations (as in yard chores), sometimes do "get me down" a bit. So anyway -- last Monday when it rained off and on all day, I decided that it would be a "pick me up" to go through the stacks of catalogs piling up around my house.  It turned out to be a true morale booster for sure.  

As I dug through the pile, I began to focus on little plaques as well as T-shirts with fun "sayings". Those of you who follow my blog, may remember how much fun I have with the words on T-shirts.  Anyway -- I have come up with a list of my latest favorites in T-shirt and plaque sayings. I put my personal faves in bold type. Here we go  -- in no specific order:


  • Lazy People Fact # 35463098210 : You were too lazy to read that number.
  • A recent study has found that women who carry a little extra weight live longer than the men who mention it.
  • I thought growing old would take longer.
  • No, you can't have the Wi-Fi password.  Talk to each other. Pretend it's 1995.
  • You know all those things you've always wanted to do?  You should go do them.
  • Always give 100% .. unless you're donating blood.
  • If you are grouchy, irritable or just plain mean, there will be a $10 charge for putting up with you.
  • I'd grow my own food if I could only find bacon seeds.
  • Sometimes when I open my mouth, my Mother comes out.
  • Politicians and Diapers need to be changed often.. for the same reason.
  • oops...did I roll my eyes out loud?
  • You're never too old for nap time.
  • Don't grow up!  It's a trap.
  • Nope, No Monsters Here. Carry on. (Wish I had had this sign when my son was little and plagued by a creepy clown looking into his second floor window at night.
Okay -- just two more -- both of which are at the very top of my list.

Christopher Robin to Pooh: "pRomise mE you'll always REmEmber:
you'RE bRavEr than you bEliEve and stRongER than you sEEm and smaRtER than you thinK".

"Everything will be okay in the end. If it's not okay, it's not the end. (Unknown)  (Oh how I wish I could meet Unknown -- or Anonymous, for that matter. Even more -- I wish I could think of smart and lasting words that people would find important/meaningful enough to want to put on plaques or T-shirts.)

And so it goes... Please feel free to vote for your personal fave or -- to add to the list. 

Thursday, July 21, 2016

We made Time Magazine!

We made Time magazine -- the July 11th - July 18th edition.  Well, maybe not us personally, but our area of the country is featured -- substantially.  In my view - that counts.  It seems that Time decided to put out a "99% Politics Free" issue in response to readers begging desperately for a break from the political news front.  Nice to know that someone out there listens; isn't it?  So -- anyway -- the title of the issue is "240 Reasons to Celebrate America Right Now"  and guess what? Our section of this great country is featured in #191 and #192. #192 even has a photograph!

Just in case Time is sold out everywhere around here by the time this blog is posted... I offer a few details.  #191 focuses on the New York state side of Niagara Falls and their $70 million plan to replace part of a highway with hiking trails. And -- although the reporter/writer is, what I find to be unnecessarily snarky in describing Niagara Falls as a "shopworn honeymoon destination", he/she does end on a positive note. I have to wonder why no one is given credit for writing that copy....  Hmm....

#192, entitled "A place where learning is personal", by Nancy Gibbs, is about Chautauqua Institution (sort of). I say "sort of" because the author who penned this snippet writes about Chautauqua like someone who doesn't live in the area -- rather -- a summer visitor, passing through briefly, who researched the Chautauqua experience rather than felt it. I do give her credit for recognizing a good thing when she sees it. Further -- I have to say that although the writer's references to Teddy Roosevelt are a bit too researched -- and thus seem a bit of a filler, she does manage to capture some of what Chautauqua is... a teeny bit...maybe.

If you read the essay at the end of this issue, written by Joel Stein, you may find him to confirm what I said earlier about the snarky element of this edition, but then -- you know what?  We do have a lot to celebrate in this wonderful country of ours and if Joel Stein thinks a break from politics is not a good thing, and if Ben Goldberger, the editor of this issue, had a hard time coming up with 240 reasons to celebrate -- too bad for them.  

Thursday, July 14, 2016

It seemed like a good idea at the time....

We have all had them.  Brainstorms. Brilliant ideas.  In retrospect, however... maybe not. It is at this point that an ability to laugh at oneself becomes important as you work to fix "it" or deal with "it" -- whatever "it" may be. 

As an example, consider the time I mailed all my income tax documents to an accountant and they were lost in the USPS for over a month.  I had to have all the necessary documents reissued and then -- both packets arrived at the accountant's office on the same day.  

Or ---  like the time I paid my federal taxes by credit card and didn't notice for over a year that my card was never billed.  I found out when the USPS notified me that my tax return had been found in a mail bag of lost mail somewhere on the east coast and that they had made everything right with the IRS. 

It isn't always the USPS though. Those examples just came to mind first. And --sometimes the situations are really less important than taxes. This week my dilemma involved rehanging a wall unit to charge my weed-whacker.  All I succeeded in doing was making an even bigger, nastier looking hole in the drywall of my garage.  Of course if I had done it right in the first place, all damage could have been avoided. Fortunately my dog-eared how to fix anything book (for dummies) gave good instructions on how to repair the damage.  What I am wondering is why I didn't look up how to do this "project" in the first place -- you know -- before I messed up that section of the wall?  

Why is it that if I can see a picture of how a finished project is supposed to look, I think that I don't need to read and follow the instructions?  Theories?  Is this an inherited trait -- or do I just need to blame myself?

Oh, by the way -- the weed-whacker is now charging on the floor of my garage. I plan to figure out how to hang the charger on the wall very soon now.  

Thursday, July 7, 2016

Corry's Fridays

In a great many places around the world Fridays are special year-round as the harbinger of the weekend, but -- in Corry, Pennsylvania, summer Fridays are "especially special" -- for a couple of reasons.  The motivating phrase "Let's bring downtown Corry to life this summer!" is most definitely working.

First - the Corry Farmers Market runs on summer Fridays from early morning until early afternoon. Located on the South side of the city park on the Center Street, vendors offer real maple syrup, meats, cut flowers, eggs, baked goods, honey, and large variety of fresh produce and even hand crafted items -- some delightfully original and especially lovely and arty, others wonderfully useful and well made.  The market is a something for everyone sort of situation. It's a "happening" -- and -- a chance to catch up with people you hardly ever see, but who share an interest in supporting the local community. Sometimes there is even music.  Bonus! 

Second -- Corry's First Fridays.  The events of the first Fridays of the months of July, August and September are sponsored by the Business Committee of the Corry Chamber of Commerce.  Thank you!  Last Friday, the first Friday of July, was the first of the season and my inside source tells me that it was a huge success.  Actually I could see that with my own eyes.  It, too, was a "happening".  There  were artisans, music, good food, vendors, a car show and shop specials.  It all worked together to make the downtown area come alive for sure. It was fun.  I went with my local grand-kids, (I call them the little B's.), and we had a perfectly wonderful time.  We checked out everything and even did a little shopping in between visiting with friends along the way. We want to go again.  Luckily for us, there are two more opportunities for Corry's First Fridays this summer:

Friday, August 5th
Friday, September 2nd

Keep an eye out for Corry's First Fridays cool logo or check out their Facebook page for more detailed information.  

Fridays are good days in Corry;  the first Friday of the month in the summer is especially good.   

Thursday, June 30, 2016

It's like tennis...

Here's one troublesome and complicated issue that I think about sometimes. It is so important to me that I even hesitate a bit to write about it. It's a conundrum, and the thing is -- I want to get it right, be clear and... at the same time... tread lightly. 

Not alone in this, I know, but I am bothered that there isn't always quite enough time/energy in a day, and the ways I may spend my time/energy sometimes conflict. But... how I choose to live those moments is like tennis... I want to play with those from whom I can learn the good methods of play, so that I can play better.  I am most fortunate to have found many such individuals throughout my lifetime.  I cherish all of them -- past and present.

Unfortunately, I have also found that, at times, I encounter others who act as if they know for certain that other people are somehow responsible for their happiness.  I am talking about adults who do not acknowledge that they are responsible for themselves.  Things always happen to them -- they are the victims of the world. I am thinking that you have encountered such individuals as well. They fail to "see" that the world does not revolve around them and their issues. They try to control and to manipulate - perhaps most often without even a sense of that being what they are doing. At the core these are "good" people, but... they impose. They burden. Trust me ... No matter how much time others devote to listening and to offering advice if they are asked, no one can fix another's life. Interaction with such individuals is beyond exhausting. There comes a point, if you are lucky, that you have a revelation of sorts. It's this simple  -- you are only responsible for your own happiness. The burden is lifted if you know this.  Breathe....  It's is difficult enough to recognize that you are responsible for the energy that you yourself bring into a room -- always.  

It is so hard, though.. there is, sometimes, a heavy amount of guilt that comes with taking your own life back - even though, in your core, you know that you are doing the right thing.  Coming to know that ultimately you are responsible only for yourself is often a lesson that is learned the hard way.  Off and on, I have had a hard time with it for sure.  Like some of you, I bet --  there have been several times in my life when I thought/knew that I could help -- that I could fix whatever it was.  I was wrong.  I couldn't help.  I couldn't fix. What I learned is that it was only right that I should take my own life seriously. Ultimately, I am responsible only for my own happiness and how I spend what energy I have each day. Here's the thing -- I want to utilize both time and energy well. I have a certain responsibility to myself to do this. 

Somehow all this sounds somehow harsh, doesn't it?  It is especially hard for those of us who have been raised to "fix it".  Yet -- for people of my age, the expression "Life is short" takes on a whole new meaning.  If you are not there yet, my hope is that you find your own happiness.  You can't "fix it" for everyone ... no matter how much you wish that you could. Surround yourself with those who are playing the game on their own happiness and energy terms.  How you live is like tennis or any game that you wish to play well ....  choose those you play with very carefully.  In finding good players, I am/have been blessed for sure.  I am thankful.





Thursday, June 23, 2016

Ladies Who Lunch

I recently returned from a ten day visit with my sister and her wonderful family. (You can only have that long of a visit with a sister/friend and other special people who tolerate you well.) Anyway  --it was a lovely visit in spite of a nail biting wind storm during which 70 mph winds ran amok through lovely Henrico County Virginia leaving hundreds of thousands of people without power -- some for almost week -- so far. Who knows how many garbage trucks were filled with the spoiled food from refrigerators and freezers in the Richmond area.  Many trees and vehicles have also not fared well.  We were only without electricity for 36 hours or so -- not a biggy in the grand scheme of it all.  None of the trees that were split and/or bent to the ground hit the house, and when we walked the neighborhood the following morning, we were indeed thankful to have been spared.  

Yet -- even with all this excitement, it was a lovely stay. (Point of interest -- Ice Cream that has thawed for fourteen hours in the freezer before you remember that it should be eaten is the perfect consistency.  Just saying. Very little, if any ice cream went into the garbage at my sister's house.) 

Enough on the storm part of the visit -- I just have to tell you about one particularly enjoyable afternoon of my time in Richmond -- before the storm....

Here's the thing....  I am retired.  My sister, who is a little bit older than I, is still working.  I think I now understand why she doesn't want to retire.  She and I went to meet two of her friends for lunch. Talk about a bond among people with positive attitudes -- a bond that doesn't always come with the close proximity of working together in sometimes challenging circumstances.  They work with little children and share a mutual concern for them that is most touching. They also care about each other and the people with whom they work.   And -- they laugh -- a lot.  They are delightful. They made me laugh the good kind of laugh.  You know -- the kind that comes from somewhere deep within -- the real laughter -- the healing laughter. Somehow I managed to finish lunch without choking or having ice tea come out of my nose.  I think that was a minor miracle of some sort. Maybe that comes from the fact that they teach in a church preschool. Who knows? Whatever the reason -- I am thankful.  I never want to embarrass my sister. 

Before this gathering, I thought that the Virginia Museum of Fine Arts and the Lewis Ginter Botanical Gardens were amazing.  I had been entranced by the shopping at Stony Point, Cary Town and Short Pump.  But -- that was before I met two very special people.  I will remember the afternoon forever.  Just thinking about it makes me smile.  I like to think of them as the ladies who lunch.


Thursday, June 16, 2016

Dilly Beans and the Demise of the Disposal


Why is it that homeowner "troubles" seem to arrive in clumps?  I recently noticed that not only does my barn need new fascia, but I have also struggled with mechanical issues with both my garden vehicle and pasture tractor. Then -- last week huge computer issues, and most recently -- my garbage disposal met its final end.  I am so thankful for good plumbing people. I simply have to mention them specifically -- Dan Flick's Plumbing, Heating and Air Conditioning.  They understand. They are the all around best  -- not only are they nice people, but they also know what they are doing, do it well and promptly.  Again -- Thank You!  I so admire efficiency and ...  that they keep a straight face when you confess that you were trying to make things disappear when everything fell apart.

Here's the thing -- my disposal was probably on its way out anyway when I put what remained of a small jar of past-their-prime hot dilly beans down into it. However --  in hastening the beans to their end, I also managed to totally clog the drain in my kitchen sink which then backed up and, of course, would not drain out.  The result was that by morning my entire house smelled like yucky hot pickled green dilly beans. Oh -- lest I forget -- the disposal also began to leak under my sink as well -- enough to ooze and drip out onto my kitchen floor before I noticed what was happening with all that.  Oh my....  Those of you who have been there, can fill in the rest of the details.  When help arrived, shortly after I called them,  the under the sink area reeked of damp Brillo pads. The Flick's professionals were nice about that too.

Ah -- the joys of home ownership.  Then again -- I am always thankful that I am not washing my dishes in the pond behind my barn and sleeping out under the stars listening to the sounds of the bull frogs and dive-bombing mosquitoes. There is that....

Thursday, June 9, 2016

Scammed! Not a good feeling.

You think you have a handle on things.
You think you are alert.
You think it could not happen to you.
You find out you are wrong.
You feel stupid and vulnerable.
You find out you are not alone.

To make a long story short.  I thought I was dealing with a company that provided support for Microsoft in the form of anti-virus/optimization, etc.  -- not those guys who call you with the phone scam ... other guys.  I called them first -- a few months ago. Anyway -- they had control of my computer supposedly working to solve an ongoing issue that I was having with their software, and when I refused to give them my bank information, they blocked me from access to my own computer by setting their own password, and... they hung up on me. I discovered this when after deleting all their software, my computer would not allow me access. Interestingly -- they have since called back twice trying to regain access to my computer once again. Needless to say, I replied with an emphatic "no".  (There are times that "...giving someone a second chance is like giving them another bullet for their gun, because they missed you the first time.")  I told them to send me a check to refund what I had paid for the anti-virus/tech support, etc. They said they would. I don't believe them.

The aftermath -- over three hours of working with a wonderful support technician who works with the manufacturer of my computer, got me back in business, but I lost everything on my computer -- everything except the things I didn't even know that I had on a cloud and that wasn't much. Now a few days later -- having reinstalled my software and reconnected with my email provider, I am back in business -- sort of, but the whole experience still stings, and I am extremely thankful that I did not have any financial information stored on my hard drive and that I was able to block them from ever charging anything on the credit card number that I had used with them. 

I guess I am writing this to say that if this type of thing has happened to you -- I know how you feel.  

What I am wondering is what goes on in the minds of people who make a living taking advantage of those of us who trust and expect to be treated as we treat others? I guess I should know better at this stage of the "game".  I am disappointed.



Thursday, June 2, 2016

A Work in Progress

As I look back over the blogs that I have written during the past couple of years, I cannot help but think that, at this stage of the "game", I am still very much a work in progress.  I think that is a good thing for a person.  Right?  There is something about the element of possibility in all that that appeals to me. 

On my desk in front of me is a quote written on a small piece of paper.  I read it at least once  --  every single day.  It says, "It is never too late to become who you always wanted to be". I take that very seriously.  It's hopeful.  It's comforting. It speaks of a tomorrow.  The thing is -- I do think of the tomorrows.  I find it sad that there are people who don't have dreams or who don't play with the possibilities of who they want to be/become. I find it sad that there are those who are caught in what was -- past tense. The fact of the matter is, there is a point when you are no longer who you used to be.  That is the way of a life.   It is true of all who live to a certain age.  It's important to let go of the parts of the past that hold you in place or -- that drag you down.  It is vital to move on  -- explore the possibilities.  Be thankful. We have all learned a lot throughout the years.  Now is the time to put that knowledge and experience to use.  It is not about how old you are; it is about who you are and who you want to become.  It is about who you are becoming.

Human beings don't always do the right things or make the best choices. That's is because we are ... human.  We are not supposed to be perfect. Some days we just have to put one foot in front of the other and try our best.  The key is to move. Look forward. Watch your step. Be nice to people. Enjoy....  

Thursday, May 26, 2016

As Winnie the Pooh says...

This is the time of year for graduations -- although -- I prefer to think of these ceremonies as commencements -- as beginnings.  The signs of celebration are all over the place in displays of party products, in ads for gift suggestions and even in special wrapping supplies.   High Schools and Colleges are keeping the tassel/cap and gown people smiling for sure. Some families are planning parties. 

Here is my greeting to the Class of 2016 wherever you are:

Congratulations!  You are on your way.  Hopefully you have already learned that your work is just beginning.  Hopefully you realize that you need to sort it all out now and find your own way. Hopefully you will decide to be a giver and not a taker. Hopefully you will be mindful enough to know the difference. I wish you well....

Good luck to you and remember the words of Winnie the Pooh -- "A grand adventure is about to begin".  

Thursday, May 19, 2016

Tchotchkes and Other Assorted Treasures

Any of you who have been reading my work for a while now, know that I am fascinated by words. This week I am particularly interested in the word tchotchkes, although kerfuffle, chutzpah and bubkes are also at the top of the list of words with which I would love to play at some point in time.  I think each of those words is fun to say, and all of them are most effective in describing as only solid adjectives are able to do -- even though each of those words is actually a noun -- albeit a colorful one...

It is only recently that I came to know how to spell any of the words mentioned above, and that makes it only more fun to write about one of them.  I have to tell you that I am not a good speller, never have been, in spite of the fact that I love words. The age of spell checker has changed my life.  Auto-correct still has a few issues as far as I am concerned, but spell check or the red underline in word processing that gives you options -- heaven for me. (Thank you, whoever you are. You are a language hero as far as I am concerned.)

Anyway --  I do love stuff and a bit of that are tchotchkes.  When I was much younger, I was big into pennants of places where we traveled on summer vacations and then later on I displayed pennants of the colleges of my friends. There was also the charm bracelet of my teenage years that I wish I could find today. (Have you noticed that they are coming back in the updated Pandora fashion of the moment?) But anyway -- the tchotchkes that are at the top of the dust gathering list for me are the two trophies that I have "won" -- two -- in my entire life. The first was a junky trophy made of compressed paper and bits of wood that has since disintegrated. I was so proud of it -- I won it in Junior Golf -- it was the kind of trophy that one wins for participating with a good attitude.... I was never a good athlete -- not that girls had many sports in which to participate back in the day.  The second trophy is the one I won in a speech competition when I was in high school.  It was for an original oration and I beat a young man who had won his previous eleven competitions. Over fifty years later, I still remember his name. Wonder if he is on Facebook? Recently I discovered that I still have a note that my sister wrote me from college at that time telling me congratulations  -- celebrating what she called my gift of gab. (I cherish that note.)  But -- back to the focus of this blog -- that trophy is, I know, somewhere here in my office. I distinctly remember putting it on a shelf when I moved into this house now fifteen years ago.  It's for sure behind some books... you see - many of my book shelves are two rows deep with books.  Are books tchotchkes of a sort? Probably not, but the things I display in front of them and in back of them are -- those "things" may be dust collecting trinkets, but they are also memory keepers ... treasures for sure.  Tchotchkes....

Thursday, May 12, 2016

Sometimes raising children is like being pecked to death by a chicken ...

No matter where you live, raising children is not for the faint of heart. Needless to say a sense of humor is a most important survival skill. I find that day to day life is much less stressful when your kids are all grown; you have somehow survived, and now it’s time to enjoy grandchildren – the most wonderful of all creations. I am totally “into” my grandkids, who are, of course absolutely wonderful in every sense – even when the younger ones band together and begin to lurk and skulk about in tandem – silent little Ninjas on an imaginary mission of some sort. If they would start not to be wonderful, I have learned that whatever the problem is, it will pass with a little love to get them through – or - I can always send them home to their loving parents. (Actually I haven't had to do that yet.)

I figure that I am entitled to enjoy my grandkids as I survived raising a son and a daughter… good kids, but they still dragged me kicking and screaming through the usual growing-up challenges – I found myself to be ever captive but … willing to help. I have to tell you that my hair is totally white. The loss of color happened prematurely, and I earned every single white hair. Frankly, I blame it on my son’s four wheeler experiences in combination with a certain fearlessness and his belief in his own immortality and on my daughter’s tendency to love and adopt animals – of all sorts… hamsters, fish, bunnies, dogs, cats, horses. She actually trained an old pulling pony to jump logs. She was about 7 years old at the time, I think -- maybe even younger.

Further -- I feel compelled to mention that the poor driving skills of both of them during the first year or so of having a driver’s license also contributed to my premature white hair phenomenon. My daughter totaled a car shortly after she passed her driving test. I think it may have been one day after. One Day! The terror that comes with that sort of experience tends to hang on for a long time in a mom who tends to worry over even minor things. I will say though that at least she didn’t have speeding tickets in four states in one year like her big brother, so there is that for which to be thankful. By the way -- I no longer ask him about the status of that "tickets in one-year" record. I just assume that he has matured on that front + he lives in a Midwestern state that already has a high speed limit -- one which I find excessive to say the least. What can I say? He comes from a family that has a race car driver in its background. He feels the "need for speed" -- or did at one time.

Nowadays -- I have to admit that I take a certain perverse pleasure in listening to both of my children discussing their child rearing "situations" as well as when they call to ask advice.  I particularly love it that my son called to ask how I handled it when he was out late past curfew which, in truth, was never -- that I know of. He laughed when I told him that I used to go to bed early and set the alarm for 15 minutes before he was supposed to get home, so that I could be at the door to give him a nice long hug and to ask about his evening.  It worked for the most part – both kids knew I would be giving them that hug when they got home.  It was always my hope that they would think about that hug and welcome home talk.  I think they did. Then again – they may have left the house after I went to bed so that I never even knew that they were out – I don’t want to even think about it.  I have told them not to talk of such things in front of me as I am just starting to relax a bit on the worrying front now that they are handling their own stuff and raising their own children.  They are, by the way, doing an excellent job of it all.  (They now ask me nicely not to share their stories in front of their children.  Oh the struggles of temptation….)

Thursday, May 5, 2016

What are you thinking?

There was a time when I thought that the hula hoop was the best invention ever. Then later on it was a certain feminine hygiene product.  Time passed -- it became the disposable diaper or the post-it note that was at the top of my "major discovery" list for a while, and now, I often think that I will be eternally indebted to the individual who invented painters' tape. When I think about inventions during my life time, I am a bit overwhelmed. I find it difficult to decide what is most important. Most seem at least a bit important and many have changed all of our lives -- at least those of us who have moved/been dragged out of the cave, and that covers, I think, almost everyone in the entire world now.  Think about it...  even those who live in the most primitive of conditions are touched by the outside world. There is no escape. In most case scenarios -- our lives are improved -- hope so.  Anyway --

From time to time I have thought about the significance of the fact that many of our grandparents moved from a wood stove to central heating, from horse and buggy to automobiles, and from work horses to tractors. Remember that they were one of the generations who walked up hill both ways.  Then again -- our generation has experienced leaps as great -- and in larger numbers perhaps. Our world is changing so very quickly, and... we find out about new "stuff" in record time -- sometimes even years before the common folk have access to whatever it is. Our world is both smaller and larger at the same time.  

Of course there are a multitude of medical discoveries and a bunch of scientific developments that I know nothing about and wouldn't understand even if I did explore them a bit -- like the whole fiber optic "thing".  I know that these inventions are making our lives better and am thankful for the smart people who figured it all out. But turning to things that are more readily understandable and more frequently utilized brings us to such things as -- personal computers, cell phones, video games, the World Wide Web (does anyone call it that anymore?), and then there is GPS as well as DNA testing, etc. (Lots of letters in our world today; that's for sure.) 

On a more personal level -- I love my garage door opener (especially in bad weather), central air conditioning, and...  I am fond of the TV remote control, Roku, Netflix, and Acorn TV.  I also enjoy the convenience of the ATM machine and cordless tools with interchangeable batteries. I even comprehend, on some level, the importance of bar codes. Now that I think about it, there are a great many "newfangled" things that are changing our lives and in some cases -- becoming necessities. These are things that fulfill needs and wants that we never knew we had before their creation.  Swiffer products and microfiber cleaning cloths are cases in point.  Is your mind spinning with other inventions that have come into your life in a big way? Feel free to share.

Many times I wish that I had thought of that - whatever that is. Seriously -- how did someone know that pet rocks would become such a hit or that Chia pets would last as long as the did? ("Ch-ch-ch-chia!" has been running through my head off and on since the '80's for cryin' out loud.) I don't know about you, but I would like to have an idea that worked out well... that brought fun or, better yet, an idea that helped someone out a bit.  The thing is if I ever had an idea for such an invention, I didn't stay with it long enough for it to come into focus or I remember the idea after someone else had actually brought it to fruition. I guess the place to start might be with what people seem to need help with. Some research is necessary here.  

It is a fast moving and interesting world we live in. At times I wish we could all put on the brakes and slow things down so that people could catch up a little bit. Remember that "game" Would you rather be deaf or blind?  It's a game that made you really think about and appreciate important aspects of your life. Well let's play a variation -- Would you rather have transportation of some sort or access to media?   I am just wondering what you are thinking.  
Call it research.  

  

Thursday, April 28, 2016

Arts and Crafts

Recently I have been writing/rewriting a short article to submit to an online magazine that published something of mine about a year ago. I am hoping that they might like my work enough to think about publishing it again. We will see.   The topic? Arts and Crafts.  Anyway -- thinking about this topic brought back a lot of fun memories.  I have a sneakin' suspicion that you may have similar flashbacks as you read through this post.

The more I thought about it, the more I realized that I started young in this creative arena.  There were always projects going on in my house.  For several years I remember my mom having a table set up somewhere in the house for things like making holiday ornaments out of old jewelry. There were other, larger projects as well -- decoupage and "antiquing" old furniture in avocado and cloudy blue stains. There were always "things" going on. Our Mom made her own draperies and taught my sister and I how to sew.  I don't, however, think that I ever mastered installation of a zipper or made anything that actually fit well. I accept full responsibility for this ineptitude. Sewing, in general makes me tense -- (as does playing games, for that matter.) Anyway -- 

The propensity for involvement in projects carries over.  I think it may be genetic, and some of these inherited talents are like riding a bike.  In fact, I think that I may still remember how to fold and weave gum wrappers into a chain. Sometimes I still make my own bows for gift wrapping. I no longer paint or sculpt with metal -- something I did a long time ago, but...  I do knit, crochet, cross stitch and attempt other skills -- most of which would be absolutely perfect to send photos of into Pinterest for their "Nailed it (Failed It) category.

Ah -- Fond memories --  day camp clay ashtrays, pine cone wreaths, macrame hangers for plants. (Now knot tying was one art/craft that I personally spread like a contagion throughout my home and to all family and friends kind enough to support my endeavors and to accept gifts of knots.) Then again there were challenges like embroidery. My sister and I each started quilt square kits when we were in our teens or maybe we were even younger than that. She will remember exactly when.  She is, in great part, my memory of the more important details of our lives. A childhood friend of mine remembers all the other important tidbits.   Anyway -- I know she never finished embroidering her quilt squares because, more than a few years ago, she sent me the two squares she had finished and the ten squares that she had not even started.  She may have done this because at one point I sent her my unfinished kit just in case she wanted to make a quilt twice the size of the original plan. She also returned those to me. Just the other day, I saw all the squares and thread reposing in tissue in a box far back on a high closet shelf.  I wonder if my sister would want them now that her children are all grown. She might have time.  Then again, she is working part time and playing with her grand kids among many other things.   Hmm... she probably would not want them ... but ... it is tempting to send them to her anyway... sort of a "blast from the past" type of memorabilia. Actually I will be visiting her in a month or so. I could take them as a "thank you for your hospitality" gift. Hmm... probably not a good idea....

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Wondering now -- does paint by number fit into the category of arts and crafts? It should really. It takes a certain knack (one I have never completely mastered).  What about rock painting? Crayon Art? Plastic canvas Kleenex box covers?  You probably have a list of your own favorites.

If my Arts and Crafts article is rejected by the magazine, I may share the whole thing with you as a blog post. It includes some mention of basket weaving with friends.  It was fun to write.  I am hoping that it will be fun to read. We will see.    

Thursday, April 21, 2016

Tit for Tat

Next week are the Pennsylvania Presidential Primaries... with a large number of delegates up for grabs. You know what this means... right? Well, for one thing, it means the potential for lots of nasty television commercials and survey calls. For another thing -- it means that I will get to practice at least some of the questions I made up last June for the blog post entitled "Unknown Caller".

The more I think of it now, I am so hoping that I do get annoying survey calls from real people, not just robo calls.  I anticipate that this tit for tat process could be fun. Picture this...

Caller:  I have a few important survey questions.  It won't take much of your time.  Would you be able to answer them?

Me:  Certainly,  I just need to finish this bite of my dinner ... and ... I do need you to answer a few questions of my own first.  Surely you wouldn't mind.... It won't take much of your time and then we can get to your questions.  

  • How are you? Are you having a good day? Do you find that most people are nice to you on the phone? Or...?
  • Assuming that you are not a volunteer and are not incarcerated -- do you get paid well for doing these surveys?  Do you earn under or over minimum wage? What is minimum wage in your state?  What state is that? In general, how do you feel about your pay on a scale from 1 - 5 with 5 indicating that you are totally satisfied?
  • If paid, do you get paid by the number of people you call or by the number of completed surveys? Do they deduct pay when people hang up on you? Are your feelings hurt when people do so?
  • What company or political party are you really working for?  Are you sitting in a back room of the White House right now? Does your boss have a Southern tinge of Texas, Midwestern, New York Cityish, or New Englandish accent?
  • What is your highest level of education? How old are you? Really? You sound younger.
  • Do you have other jobs, or is this full time?
  • Do you own your own home? 
  • Do you live in the city or in the boonies?
  • What would you be doing if you were not doing this survey?
  • Do you have any idea of what time zone you are calling?  Do you care?
  • Are you planning on buying a new car within the next 5 years? If so what make/model do you think it will be? Will you buy it new or used?
  • How did you get my phone number? Did you have to pay for it? How much did it cost?
  • Have I brightened your day?
Feel free to use any of my questions if you wish to play as well. Do let me know if you make any new friends or if someone hangs up on you.  

Thursday, April 14, 2016

View From The Porch

It's Presidential election time once again. Are you sick of it yet? I find it odd and somewhat amusing, that for the first time in my life, I am not tuning it out...yet. This is the year, and I am watching American politics from my porch, so to speak -- or maybe I am a member of some peanut gallery that exists on the fringe of things.The thing is, even with all the hoopla, I find it hard to give this getting elected process my complete attention.  I must admit also that - so far - I am amused by it all - or maybe bemused is a more accurate adjective. I honestly have tried to watch what the "news" channels call debates only to find myself annoyed by moderators who love to hear themselves talk and by candidates who are under the delusion that people will hear them if they talk louder while trying to over-talk others. The moderators' questions are longer than the answers, for crying out loud. I find both the moderators and questions to be tedious. I find the frequent tendency of some candidates to interrupt and to be mean disheartening. Yet, on the other hand, -- at the point when there were too many Republican candidates to keep track of, I chuckled when I noticed that one candidate stood on his tippy-toes in order to appear taller. Now -- I continue to appreciate how another smoothly manipulates an arrogant and self-impressed news media.  The media take the bait every single time and still don’t “get it” -- although -- there is a glimmer that a few are beginning to have an inkling. In addition to all this --  I am somewhat disturbed to note that I can be totally distracted by a moderator’s false eyelashes or that a candidate’s pant suits look like something that may have been designed and made in communist Russia during the Cold War.  Yes, the whole process is amusing on some level.  It is also a bit unnerving and exhausting even if you don’t give it your full attention. I do try to focus.  It isn't easy.  As the campaigning trudges through the weeks causing a series of tremors in the already uneven ground of this election year, it gives one pause.  As the barrage of negative advertising attacks increases and becomes more pathetic, my question is -- will we Americans somehow be able to sort it all out and pull it all together?  I think so. We have done it before.  Haven’t we?  What we are witness to now is nothing new in the realm of American politics and elections.  Sad, but....

Here’s the thing…It is important to remember the greatness of America.  We are a country forged by the special talents that come from the blend of cultural diversity.  We are a people descendant of the hardy and courageous. Americans are, for the most part resilient and generous. We face adversity; we sometimes learn from our mistakes; we grow; we adapt.  We give – over and over again, though we rarely receive a Thank You note.  We know in our core that America is a land of lovely picket fences as well as of magnificent sky scrapers, a land of calloused hands and muddy boots as well as of manicured nails and designer wingtips. Here’s another thing – figuratively speaking -- from all walks of life, we still gather on a summer’s day to watch a parade.  Many of us still love a heart touching Norman Rockwell or Currier and Ives moment.  We are there looking on from our porch or participating in -- with a mixture of smiles and teary eyes.  All is not lost. Sometimes it is hard to remember that and to hang on to the belief that there will be a return to some semblance of sanity after the election. We need to remember that we have been surviving politicians and their games for a long time.